The following day (Monday, the 3rd), I got up early again to get back to my wife. On the way to the hospital, I stopped by McDonald's to pick up breakfast for the two of us. When I got there, Tary's roommate was still asleep, though not for long. She eventually got discharged a few hours later.
As for Tary, not much had changed from the night before. There were more countless trips to the bathroom and no stones could be found anywhere...
I brought my laptop in hopes that I could somehow keep my mind distracted. I connected my laptop to the Ethernet port on the wall but I could not get online. I tried borrowing another Ethernet cable from one of the nurses. No luck. I tried fiddling with various settings but I knew deep down, there was something wrong with the Internet connection in the room and I was just wasting my time. I tried working offline but it was fruitless. Who was I kidding? How can I get any work done when my wife is suffering a few feet from me?
So I took up my post again alongside Tary and helped her shuttle back and forth to the bathroom. Later in the morning, things got worse. Tary was now complaining about intense pain around both of her kidneys. After a visit from the doctor, he suspected that there may have been stones in each kidney! How can he possibly know that without running any tests?! At least the last time Tary was admitted for kidney stones, they had run some ultrasounds in an attempt to find the stones. This time...nothing. My frustration was starting to show.
Sometime around lunchtime, Tary noticed something different after one of her trips to the bathroom. She thought her mucus plug came out. My curiosity took over so I had to take a peek. Sure enough, it was plenty mucousy but not quite plug-gy.
Okay. Breathe. Tary and I gave each other one of those what-just-happened-and-what-will-happen-next looks. I've read that some women have lost their mucus plugs early and won't give birth until weeks later. And some women lose it right before going into labor. Besides, we still had 2 more weeks before Tary's due date...
...until about 1:50 PM. After another pit stop in the bathroom, Tary quickly shooed me away from seeing what she thought was a potentially embarrassing situation. After a few more moments, she wondered out loud if her water had broken. It definitely made sense. Her description of what happened definitely matches what we learned in our birthing class a few weeks earlier. My initial worry for Tary's kidney stones had quickly been replaced with elation of meeting our little boy sooner than we had expected.
Our minds were racing with emotions. We were happy. Despite our baby being considered at full term, we were still a little worried about him being born two weeks early. We had to get an expert's opinion. We called in the nurse who then called in the doctor. It felt like forever before he finally showed up. As soon as he went to examine Tary, a gush of amniotic fluid eliminated any doubts we had about her water being broken.
"Tary's water broke. Here we go!!!" Those were the exact words that I posted on Facebook at 3:08 PM.
We got all packed up and the nurse brought Tary back downstairs to the Labor and Delivery area. When we got there, we were introduced to a new nurse and our midwife, Kate. They hooked Tary up to the fetal monitoring machines again and our little guy was still going strong. With the baby on his way, the morphine was discontinued and some antibiotics were fed into the IV.
Tary and I were finally alone in the room and I think we were still in shock that this was happening. We never had a chance to even pack a hospital delivery bag. Tary helped me compile a list of things that I needed to get from home. Tary took a short nap while I raced home. I probably broke about a half-dozen moving violations on the way. I fed the boys (Gambit and Mavi) and quickly ran around the house grabbing the cameras, some clothes for us and baby, and few other toiletries and tossed them all into a large duffle bag.
By the time I got back to the hospital, it was about 3:30 PM and Tary's contractions had started. Wow, that was fast! One of the nurses suggested using the Jacuzzi during early labor so we took full advantage of it. As Tary sat in the tub with the water rumbling inside, her contractions were coming harder and faster. I tried my best to remind Tary to breathe. I held her hand when I could and that same helpless feeling came back again. Each contraction would send Tary's eyes to the back of her head and her face showed the extreme discomfort that she was in. I had no clue how long these contractions were lasting because I think Tary was mindful to not crush my hand. It was only after Tary reopened her eyes that I would know that the last contraction was over.
Between one of the contractions, I asked if it would be okay to go shave. In fact, I was adamant about it all day; I had to be cleanly shaven. My reasoning was that when we look back at the pictures from this day, I didn't want our little Daniel to think that his dad looked like a bum when he was born. I got the go-ahead and quickly cleaned up in the attached bathroom.
At about 7:50 PM, the midwife came in and checked Tary's cervix. Only 1 cm so far. 9 more to go.
By now, the Facebook notifications were coming in like crazy from friends and family who were dying for updates. I tried keeping up with the updates by relaying the messages to Tary. I thought it might be a nice distraction from the pain but after a while, Tary got rightfully upset with me. She needed me to get off my phone and to be there for her. (I'm really sorry, Tare. My excitement got the best of me and I got carried away.) From that point on, I had to go on radio silence...
The contractions were still coming in hard and fast. They were coming every 3 minutes or so. When given the option for the epidural, Tary wasted little time signing the required waivers. When the anesthesiologist arrived, he was like a one-man army with his own cart of paperwork, needles, and drugs. Looking back, he kind of reminded me of the scientist who tried to inject some truth serum into Arnold Schwarzenegger in True Lies.
It was about 8:20 PM now. The nurse helped Tary sit up off the side of the bed. I had to sit on a stool by the window while the doctor cleaned and prepared an area of Tary's back. He stuck some long instrument or needle into Tary's back but he seemed to be having difficulty. Tary's natural dislike for needles made her back tense up which was counter-productive to the doctor's work. He tried a few more times to get the needle in between Tary's vertebrae. I could see his frustration mounting. I was getting angry with him as he started using more force to get the needle in. It felt like forever. I was afraid I was going to have to jump over the bed and smack-an-anesthesiologist. Finally...success.
The relief was almost immediate. Tary's pain went from a 10 on the pain scale down to a 2 or a 3. The midwife suggested that we get some rest while we could. I heeded that advice and took a nap on the chair nearby. I don't think Tary slept all that much. Tomorrow was going to change our lives forever.
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Friday, May 21, 2010
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Daniel Heng Trinh - Part 2
The next day (Sunday), I tried to get up as early as I could so I could return to Tary. I had usher duty this month at church so I started my day by calling E.H. and asked him to fill in for me. Then after a quick shower, I fed the boys (i.e., the cats) and hurried back to the hospital.
When I got to Tary's room, her roommate, a relatively young girl, was sleeping on the bed closest to the door. Apparently, this girl was also pregnant and had some sort of infection.
I quietly walked across the room to get over to the other side where Tary was lying. She was still in a great deal of pain. She was still drinking tons of fluids so she had to frequently get up to use the bathroom (which was on the opposite side of the room). Not only did the pain of getting up make these trips to the bathroom incredibly hard, there were a lot of IV tubes connected to Tary's arm. While I was there, I did my best to be supportive by unplugging the IV machines, neatly wrapping the power cords and placing them on top of the IV hooks, and then rolling the machinery while escorting Tary on her trips. After each trip, I would help Tary back to bed, reconnect the power cords, and ask if she felt any better. The answer was always the same. "No."
The last time Tary had kidney stones, she was able to pass them in less than 24 hours. It was quickly about to approach the 48 hour mark. It was the toughest thing for me to just sit and watch Tary have to go through this. I tried calming myself down by searching on my iPhone about kidney stones and pregnancies. Apparently, it's fairly common. However, the more I read, the worse I felt about the whole ordeal. Some mothers shared various horror stories on forums about how it took weeks for their kidney stones to pass, well after their babies were born.
Each Sunday, Tary and I would normally go to church and then have lunch at my parents' house. Since we knew were wouldn't able to make it this week, I texted my brother and cousin to let my parents know. A few hours later, my brother and his girlfriend came to the hospital to visit. I don't know how much their presence helped Tary's psyche but I know I felt a little better having them there.
Some time later, my parents came by to visit Tary. I guess they were concerned after getting the news from my brother and cousin. Tary's parents and Tary's cousin also stopped by a while later. It was quite a surprise to see them all there but it feels good to know that they all care about Tary's health.
Continuing on the visitors theme, our friends S.I. and his fiancee J.W. came by to visit and to drop off some dinner. While the four of us were talking, I reminded my Bejeweled Blitz arch-nemesis J.W. that I had beaten her score this week. She then mentioned that she thought she had beaten it. I looked at my phone and still saw my name on top of the leaderboard...a fact which I had to point out to her again.
After our friends had left, I reloaded Bejeweled Blitz and checked the leaderboard again. Oh no...J.W. was right! She somehow managed to leapfrog me. That's impossible! It is not humanly possible to score more than 569,000 points! Maybe she's cheating. Someone check her for roids. I'm starting to think that I'll never be as good as she is. Well, maybe J.W. is really a robot (like from The Stepford Wives) but that's a topic for a future blog post.
Well, it was finally late and I had to go home again. Two consecutive nights without my wife was really hard. I had no clue how much longer we'd have to stay in the hospital waiting for those stones to pass. If only we knew what would happen next...
When I got to Tary's room, her roommate, a relatively young girl, was sleeping on the bed closest to the door. Apparently, this girl was also pregnant and had some sort of infection.
I quietly walked across the room to get over to the other side where Tary was lying. She was still in a great deal of pain. She was still drinking tons of fluids so she had to frequently get up to use the bathroom (which was on the opposite side of the room). Not only did the pain of getting up make these trips to the bathroom incredibly hard, there were a lot of IV tubes connected to Tary's arm. While I was there, I did my best to be supportive by unplugging the IV machines, neatly wrapping the power cords and placing them on top of the IV hooks, and then rolling the machinery while escorting Tary on her trips. After each trip, I would help Tary back to bed, reconnect the power cords, and ask if she felt any better. The answer was always the same. "No."
The last time Tary had kidney stones, she was able to pass them in less than 24 hours. It was quickly about to approach the 48 hour mark. It was the toughest thing for me to just sit and watch Tary have to go through this. I tried calming myself down by searching on my iPhone about kidney stones and pregnancies. Apparently, it's fairly common. However, the more I read, the worse I felt about the whole ordeal. Some mothers shared various horror stories on forums about how it took weeks for their kidney stones to pass, well after their babies were born.
Each Sunday, Tary and I would normally go to church and then have lunch at my parents' house. Since we knew were wouldn't able to make it this week, I texted my brother and cousin to let my parents know. A few hours later, my brother and his girlfriend came to the hospital to visit. I don't know how much their presence helped Tary's psyche but I know I felt a little better having them there.
Some time later, my parents came by to visit Tary. I guess they were concerned after getting the news from my brother and cousin. Tary's parents and Tary's cousin also stopped by a while later. It was quite a surprise to see them all there but it feels good to know that they all care about Tary's health.
Continuing on the visitors theme, our friends S.I. and his fiancee J.W. came by to visit and to drop off some dinner. While the four of us were talking, I reminded my Bejeweled Blitz arch-nemesis J.W. that I had beaten her score this week. She then mentioned that she thought she had beaten it. I looked at my phone and still saw my name on top of the leaderboard...a fact which I had to point out to her again.
After our friends had left, I reloaded Bejeweled Blitz and checked the leaderboard again. Oh no...J.W. was right! She somehow managed to leapfrog me. That's impossible! It is not humanly possible to score more than 569,000 points! Maybe she's cheating. Someone check her for roids. I'm starting to think that I'll never be as good as she is. Well, maybe J.W. is really a robot (like from The Stepford Wives) but that's a topic for a future blog post.
Well, it was finally late and I had to go home again. Two consecutive nights without my wife was really hard. I had no clue how much longer we'd have to stay in the hospital waiting for those stones to pass. If only we knew what would happen next...
Saturday, May 8, 2010
Daniel Heng Trinh - Part 1
I am proud to introduce Daniel Heng Trinh. On May 4th, 2010 at 2:40 AM, he made his grand entrance into the world. Measuring in at 6 lbs 11 oz and 19 3/4 inches long, he is just too cute and adorable to describe in words. I absolutely love him.
The story of Daniel's birth actually started back on Saturday, May 1, 2010 at the new buybuy BABY store in Nashua, NH. Tary and I were there to get a missing wheel on a stroller that we had previously ordered. As we got out of the car, Tary complained about some low back pain similar to her previous bout with kidney stones. I thought to myself, "Oh no! Not this again!" We hurried through the store to pick up a new wheel off of one of the demo units.
We rushed back to Tary's parents' house hoping the pain would subside. She called the doctor's office but they said they would call her back. We waited a half hour before we gave up and went home. The pain continued mounting and the next half hour felt like forever. Tary decided to call her doctor's office again. The lady informed us that they were backed up with 20 other patients and that the on-call doctor recommended that we go to the hospital.
We raced to Lowell General Hospital and checked in at the Emergency Room area. They told us to head to the Labor and Delivery section. We were led to a room and an ob/gyn checked Tary's vitals, made sure that Baby was fine, and that Tary wasn't going into early labor. Since Baby was okay, we waited a few hours to be relocated to a new room in the Mother/Infant Unit.
The nurses hooked Tary up to a fetal monitoring machine which kept track of contractions and Baby's heartbeat. They started Tary on antibiotics via IV just in case it was a kidney infection or UTI. Tary was in a lot of pain so she was also given a Patient Controlled Analgesia (PCA) aka self-administered morphine through her IV. She was scared to give herself medicine to relieve her pain from the kidney stones despite being reassured that it would not harm Baby.
Tary was given tons of fluids to help flush out the kidney stones. The nurses fed her bag after bags of fluids through the IV and brought in paper cups filled with ice to go along with many tiny 4 oz containers of juice. All I could do was watch the fetal monitoring printouts and help escort Tary to the bathroom because of all of the machinery used with the IV attached to Tary.
I felt so helpless watching my wife go through all of this pain again so I stepped in and grabbed the trigger for the PCA. "Eagle-1, Fox-2", I exclaimed as I hit the button sending a dose of morphine directly into Tary's veins. The morphine provided mild relief but it was better than anything else they had. Too bad I could only relive being a fighter pilot from the movie Independence Day every 10 minutes because there was a programmed lockout to prevent overdosing on morphine.
I tried to stay as long as I could with Tary but I had to go home because they were expecting another patient to be moved into the same hospital room. It was a long night.
Saturday, February 6, 2010
Emergency Room - Part Trois
Another week has gone by and this one was just as eventful as last week. For starters, Tary and I were getting ready for bed on Monday night when Tary started feeling an intense pain radiating from the right side of her back. Thinking that it was just normal pregnancy aches and pains, she took a warm bath hoping that the pain would go away. Instead, it continued to get worse. She called her doctor and they told her to go to the ER. We hopped in my car and we rushed to LGH. That's 3 visits to the ER for those who are counting.
There were tons of other people at the ER. I never understood why there are always so many people there, especially at midnight when we arrived. It felt like forever for Tary to get admitted. The receptionist was taking her sweet time entering in Tary's information and getting her paperwork. Thankfully, someone from the maternity ward came with a wheelchair and brought Tary over to their area.
They had Tary change into a hospital gown and then hop on a table. The nurse attached several sensors to Tary's abdomen. One measured the frequency and probably intensity of contractions and the other measured the baby's heartbeat. Thank God that Baby Trinh was fine through all of this.
The nurse tried to take a sample of Tary's blood from her wrist. Fail. That left a bruise. The second attempt was more successful. They were checking for signs of an infection (e.g., elevated white blood cell count). Our ob/gyn came and performed some tests and hypothesized that it could either be a kidney infection or a kidney stone. Tary and I have no experience with either scenario so it definitely was scary.
The ob/gyn gave Tary a pair of Percocets for the pain. Fail. He then gave a dose of Dilaudid. Fail again. It didn't help much with the pain and I felt helpless as I watched Tary cringe throughout the night. The whole time, I sat in the glider next to the table. We had to wait until the next morning for an ultrasound to check for kidney stones. We tried to get as much rest as we could but it was a very long night.
The next morning, a nurse came and wheeled Tary down to the ultrasound area. I followed close behind. The ultrasound didn't reveal anything in either the kidney or the bladder. After the tests, the nurse wheeled Tary to another room which was larger than the one we had the first night. Back I went to the glider.
It felt like forever but they came back a few hours later. They moved Tary to yet another room but this time, she had a roommate. A new nurse came and tried to stick a needle in the back of Tary's hand to start an IV. Fail. It's a common theme, huh? And that left a bruise too. Smartly, the nurse knew when to call in more experienced hands so she grabbed another nurse. Nurse part deux took a look and immediately called for another person. Nurse part trois came and was able to get the IV started in Tary's forearm. They fed some fluids and antibiotics through the IV to help pass the kidney stone and to fight off any possible infections.
In the afternoon, I had to go home to feed the boys and to get my laptop. While I was at home, Tary called me with wonderful news that she had finally passed the kidney stone. She immediately started to feel better. I rushed back to the hospital and got to take a peek at the stone. It was pretty buff.
They had Tary stay another night just for precautionary reasons. My friends S.Y. and his brother came to visit and bring some dinner. It was nice to see them and I was glad that Tary was doing much better. I tried to stay as long as I could but had to leave for the night. I missed my wife.
Tary got to come home the next day. It was great having my wife back home and feeling good again. It was really the scariest thing we've ever been through and I thank God that Tary and Baby are doing pretty well. A nurse told us that compared to kidney stones, giving birth would be much easier. Obviously I can't vouch for that but for Tary's sake, I hope that she was right.
There were tons of other people at the ER. I never understood why there are always so many people there, especially at midnight when we arrived. It felt like forever for Tary to get admitted. The receptionist was taking her sweet time entering in Tary's information and getting her paperwork. Thankfully, someone from the maternity ward came with a wheelchair and brought Tary over to their area.
They had Tary change into a hospital gown and then hop on a table. The nurse attached several sensors to Tary's abdomen. One measured the frequency and probably intensity of contractions and the other measured the baby's heartbeat. Thank God that Baby Trinh was fine through all of this.
The nurse tried to take a sample of Tary's blood from her wrist. Fail. That left a bruise. The second attempt was more successful. They were checking for signs of an infection (e.g., elevated white blood cell count). Our ob/gyn came and performed some tests and hypothesized that it could either be a kidney infection or a kidney stone. Tary and I have no experience with either scenario so it definitely was scary.
The ob/gyn gave Tary a pair of Percocets for the pain. Fail. He then gave a dose of Dilaudid. Fail again. It didn't help much with the pain and I felt helpless as I watched Tary cringe throughout the night. The whole time, I sat in the glider next to the table. We had to wait until the next morning for an ultrasound to check for kidney stones. We tried to get as much rest as we could but it was a very long night.
The next morning, a nurse came and wheeled Tary down to the ultrasound area. I followed close behind. The ultrasound didn't reveal anything in either the kidney or the bladder. After the tests, the nurse wheeled Tary to another room which was larger than the one we had the first night. Back I went to the glider.
It felt like forever but they came back a few hours later. They moved Tary to yet another room but this time, she had a roommate. A new nurse came and tried to stick a needle in the back of Tary's hand to start an IV. Fail. It's a common theme, huh? And that left a bruise too. Smartly, the nurse knew when to call in more experienced hands so she grabbed another nurse. Nurse part deux took a look and immediately called for another person. Nurse part trois came and was able to get the IV started in Tary's forearm. They fed some fluids and antibiotics through the IV to help pass the kidney stone and to fight off any possible infections.
In the afternoon, I had to go home to feed the boys and to get my laptop. While I was at home, Tary called me with wonderful news that she had finally passed the kidney stone. She immediately started to feel better. I rushed back to the hospital and got to take a peek at the stone. It was pretty buff.
They had Tary stay another night just for precautionary reasons. My friends S.Y. and his brother came to visit and bring some dinner. It was nice to see them and I was glad that Tary was doing much better. I tried to stay as long as I could but had to leave for the night. I missed my wife.
Tary got to come home the next day. It was great having my wife back home and feeling good again. It was really the scariest thing we've ever been through and I thank God that Tary and Baby are doing pretty well. A nurse told us that compared to kidney stones, giving birth would be much easier. Obviously I can't vouch for that but for Tary's sake, I hope that she was right.
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